As sweet as Thai people are, from time to time they can be quite unhelpful or in better words completely useless.
During my first days in Bangkok I was just wandering around, trying to find my way, and couple of beautiful spots that I’ve seen on the map. Great achievement: I had a map. However if you ever seen Thai Sanskrit, you will see that is it quite a challenge to actually define: "Where on the map am I, exactly?"
I have the suspicion that Thai people maybe don’t use maps. It happened to me so many times, that I showed the map to tuk tuk or cab driver, he looked at it with this very curious grin (like when I see new issue of fashion magazine) looked in very different place then were we should be and then just gave it back. Great.
It was around 6pm, I knew it is going to be dark quite soon and my tuk tuk driver just left me on a random spot where I was supposed to have a quick look at some Buddha temple and then come back and go to my hostel. That would be fine, if he didn’t left me in a place that I really could not indentify with not too many Baths, as I was bargaining for the whole day and went slightly over the budget. Brilliant.
I asked around 6 people how to get to train station called Nana, and all of them pointed in the same direction and said yeah just go straight and then to the right. Then I asked the 7th.
He made it more than clear to me that I am approximately 20 km from the station and the previous guys did not speak English very well most probably.
That is the tricky thing, that Thai people really don’t want to upset you, and tell you that they actually don't really know, they will always tell you something. Although we both speak English (com si, com sa), we just have very different understanding of meaning of the words. Perfect example:
ー “ Is this food spicy ?”
ー “Noooo, just a little bit :)”
In this case, you can be soooo sure it is the most hottest chilli spicy little piece of hell you’ve ever put in your mouth. It will be so hot that you won’t be able to recognize if it is actually spicy or its just the food that has 100 degrees.
2 weeks after I came back from my holiday I went for a dinner with my good friend Mark, I was telling him the same story and what he said just struck me so much.
ー “Don’t you see that there is a parallel between your life and getting lost in Bangkok? “
In our lives we have a map that is showing us where we should go on our journey called ー life. Now the fact that you have a map, does not mean anything if you cannot read it. There will be a lot of people who you will meet on the way telling you to go straight and to the right, without having any clue where you should actually go. These are our teachers, managers, parents(sorry mum!:) friends, celebrities and whoever else is influencing you. They are also completely clueless.
Great story, but what is the conclusion? Next time, if I go to travel, I’ll buy a compass. What can be your compass in real life though? For me, I think every single day about the place where I want to get. If you know what is it exactly that you want to do in your life, if you know what is the direction that you want to take, it will not matter that people might set you on a wrong track.
In the end of the day, life is not about reaching the goal. It is about enjoying the journey.